Permission to Land

Remember them? The Darkness. Guess what happens when you think rock'n'roll is about snorting as much coke as you can. You end up washed up after one melodramatic album. Long live RocknSnort.

Right. It has been WAY too long. I swear I was a different person when I last wrote a new blogpost.

Fasten your seatbelts we're going places. This is a very different post.

You have arrived. Enough is enough. You're in control. There is nothing more you need. I finally realised that self-improvement is ADDICTIVE. It's serious crack. It allows you to be introspective. It allows you to understand the world around you. It allows you to be harder, better, faster, stronger.

But it's FUCKING USELESS.

Weird, huh. Most of this blog is about how much better your life could be and I come out with wack shit like this.

"But Paul, Please lay down your crack pipe and give me more life crack."

You don't need it. Most of it is intellectually interesting without being life-changing. To a coach it is important. To a teacher it is important. If you are going to effectuate change you have to understand how it works. For the most part a few very brief things are necessary. It is still self-improvement but it's taking the bigger picture sorted. Get these sorted and tell me where the gaps are. There won't be many if any. Details, details.

Take these things. Apply them. See change. This is plug and play baby!

1. You are enough.

Listen, YOU HAVE ARRIVED.

Wherever you are in your life right now, it's enough. Whatever you're doing, whoever you're seeing, wherever you're working or studying, however you like. You are enough.

Give yourself PERMISSION to be the person you are meant to be. You intuitively know this. You dont need to work it out. Know it. Own it. Do it.

The only thing...like literally the ONLY thing stopping you from being who you can be is a switch in your head. Flick that switch and be that person. You dont need to fill your head with ideas. You dont need to have seen a thousand things. You dont need to wait till exams are over. You dont need to wait till summer. You dont need to wait till next week. You have arrived and you are where you need to be now.

Being a better person isnt about adding new things, it's about bringing what is already inside of you, out.

2. Love thyself more than thy neighbour

Listen, send me an email grotting if you want, I won't read it. Unless you put "HI WE ARE THE STROKES AND WE WANT TO PLAY LIVE IN YOUR LIVING ROOM" in the title.

If you are going to be the best person that ever existed you have to have decided that you are going to be the best person that ever existed.

Made that decision?

Great. You are the best.

I genuinely believe that whatever I end up doing in life I will be the best at it. There is no way I can fail. And guess what?

There is no way you can fail either. You are the best. The only way you are not the best is if you think you aren't. Fuck realism. Fuck being PC.

You are the best. The number one. If you go for something 100% you will get it.

Get it? Great!

3. Behave like the high value person you are

If you masturbate every day and you want loads of sex. Fail.

If you eat shit food and you want to lose weight. Fail.

If you don't care what you wear but want to look good. Fail.

If you lickadickaday and you want to be mature. Fail.

Ok just kidding with that last one.

Here's the point. When I get a new T-Shirt I treat it with ultimate respect and care for the first few washes. When it becomes old and less soft and shiny I toss it on the floor, tread on it and treat it like I do my maid.

How do you treat yourself? Like the New shiny, soft T-shirt or like a bitch. If you treat yourself like a bitch your subconscious will pick up on that and you'll believe you're a bitch. And that will show.

If you take care over your appearance, eat good food and exercise then you are treating your body well. If you are speaking your mind, going for what you want and have a strong sense of entitlement then you are treating yourself well. Your subconscious will go DING DING DING and you'll believe you're amazing on every level. This is called self-esteem. At first this might take some mental effort but do not shirk it. With every time your smash it you will find it gets easier and easier. It won't take long for your subconscious to pick up on your new identity. Then you will be effortlessly A*.

4. Have high standards for yourself and others

Quit being a bitch. What do you expect for yourself?

Do it.

What do you expect from others?

Bring them up to those standards or ditch them.

It's really that simple. If you want a further break down of this, you're thinking too hard. If you still want a break down here:

What do you value?

What do you want out of life?

Which emotions do you feel strongly and come up regularly for you?

How should you treat others and how should you treat others?

What, that is out of your control RIGHT NOT, are you appreciative of?

My next blogpost will be answers to these questions. They'll be MY answers so don't copy them. Get your own. That's the whole point.

Enforce the ultimate standards for your life now. You've got to live your life so give yourself the best. Don't deny that. Free it up. Now.

5. Stop giving a fuck what other people think of you

Stand up. Say it. "I do not give a fuck what other people think of me".
Say it 5 times.
Now say it louder.
Now louder.
And louder.
Now scream it.

WOW. There we go.

There's a great quote about this:

For the first 25 years of our life we care what others think of us.
For the next 25 years of our life we stop giving a fuck what others think of us.
For the final 25 years of our life (yes everyone dies at 75) we realise nobody was really thinking about us all along.

Look, everyone is too busy living their life to be too concerned about you. And that should be liberating. You and you alone are responsible for your life and you can do whatever you want with it.

Stop being a pussy and live your life the way YOU want to, not the way others want you to.

Thanks.

This is a picture of Matt Bellamy looking ugly. But guess what, noone gives a fuck because he's got a pink guitar and he's so fucking rocknroll. Learn.

6. ACT and FEEL, don't think

Thinking is bad for your health. We think too much. Stop it.

If you feel it, do it. Do it before that voice in your head looks to fuck you up. You are self-sabotaging all the time because you allow that little voice in your head breathing space. Drown it.

You have to learn two things to do this effectively. Firstly you have to learn to trust yourself. And you've already done that because you followed the above advice. Secondly, you need to learn to trust in a foreign set of bearings. In a way of doing things that seems unnatural or perhaps uncomfortable for now. That feeling of eurgh WILL NOT LAST LONG. Your body and brain is immensely adaptable and if you give it 100% you will be fine.

Seriously, you live in a country with the internet. There's only so wrong it can go.

Also, ACT. Act without regard for the consequences. If that doesn't make sense it's because you're thinking your way out. Stop it. Act your way out.

Right, the only other thing I need to touch on is GOAL setting. I will do that in a future post. I will also start fielding questions or interesting topics to write on. Don't hesistate to get in touch. My email address is Paul.Idioteque@Gmail.com

Similarly, don't be afraid to hit the blog up with a comment if you enjoyed it. There are loads of you reading it, so holler!

For now, allow yourself to be your best self. Give yourself permission to land.